How different would our society appear to ourselves and others if more human beings were operating from possibility, compromise, self respect and respect for others? Can you see the possibilities would be endless.
Living life with integrity, inner power and emotionally intelligence has meant for many of us learning about all aspects of human intelligence informally because formal education does not teach the development and building blocks, growing and grooming relationships throughout life. We have all learned and acquired this knowledge through informal processes. Learning how to be in a healthy relationship with self and having healthy relationships with others is something most of us learned as the models around behaved and one learned by default to make choices that elicits pain or pleasure.
First and foremost one has to learn about having and being
in a healthy relationship with the self before we can navigate the waters of
being in a healthy relationship with someone else. A relationship with others
takes place simultaneously as we develop a relationship with the self and as
you know your self better you can then improve the quality of relationships
with others. A healthy relationship means having healthy self esteem, self
respect and the wisdom to understand the difference of healthy relationships
vs. unhealthy relationships.
We enter our primary
years of education at the age of six and leave high school around the age of
eighteen. Years of formal learning
emphatically teach reading, writing and arithmetic with a sprinkling of
understanding about human relationships. The time has arrived when the formal
education for learning about relationships within our selves and outside of our
selves is crucial. Developing the self for healthy relationships means becoming
more conscious and aware of ourselves and our purpose while we are here in this
lifetime.
How do we understand or improve our level of emotional
intelligence? We begin with knowing
more, understanding our attitude and perceptions of ourselves and others. Our attitude is one thing that we have
control with, over and in. We own our
attitude no one else does. We need a
balance of ingredients including the following but not limited to: compassion,
caring, love, understanding, family, friends, connective-ness, communication,
teaching, honesty, humanity, humility, touch, exercise, patience, harmony,
quite-ness, open mindful thinking, confidence and self respect to have a great
attitude about life and others. In other words, having the experience of all
our emotions born by our perceptions and learning how to manage them instead of
our emotions being in control of us provides a edge we all need to navigate the
waters of life. This in brief is about having emotional intelligence an
understanding to improving quality of life.
We have been taught
and learned in this culture impatience, disrespect, instant gratification,
disconnection, greed, distance, chaos, discord, having more is better and rule
with one single emotion, anger. We need to have all our emotions available to
us to provide a healthier quality of life as well as a way to manage our
emotions is key to quality of life.
A higher level of
consciousness allows us to live fully at the present moment, happier, healthier
human beings rather than a human doing. A human being rather than a human doing
is one living on purpose. A human doing goes about life subjected to every
little whim the subconscious mind directs it to do. This is where people
sometimes end up living their lives out feeling unhappy, doing things and
regretting what has been done. Being in a position of regrets perpetuates self
put downs and the cyclical pattern spirals out of control. Knowing one has choices and one that takes
responsibility for the choices made each and every time constitutes more
positive outcomes.
Living life dictated
by the subconscious mind is victimizing, controlling and ultimately living life
not at ease or dis-eased. Unhappiness,
unrest and down right misery is experienced when life continues to be lived
dictated by the subconscious rather than being fully aware of what the
subconscious is offering. Is it offering true or false information for your
life now? The subconscious part of our mind is the store house of all our
experiences. Maybe all our experiences were not calm, serene, loving, gracious,
respectful and honor a fully human experience. The good news is we do not have
to live the rest of our lives as victims of the subconscious mind. Living life
in its richest fullness is not living life controlling others. Trying to control others is futile
behavior. The only thing we have full
control over, when we live life from the prospective as human beings, is the
actions, decisions and choices we make about ourselves responsibly. Taking responsibility for the choices,
actions and decisions we make on a daily basis is living with integrity, grace,
respect, humor, flexibility and honor as well as forgiveness of ourselves and
others when we are not fully conscious of our actions or behavior. It is never
too early or too late to get your life OnTrac.
Empower your self
and others by going beyond your fears by jump-starting your
transformation by emailing to; Christine@ontrachypnosis.com ) about what you have done to live life more consciously.
There are multiple tools to help live a life more consciously. Go to Christine@ontrachypnosis.com or
on the web at www.ontrachypnosis.com
or call 603.702.0649.
Christine Clarke-Swift is a speaker, trainer, Life
Transformational Coach, NLP Master Practitioner, NGH Board Certified
Hypnotist and a NGH
Certified Instructor.
